In our culture, the wedding is a very small event with close family and a few friends but the wedding reception is a large (200-300 people) come and go or come and stay until the end event with food, music, dancing, etc. I have more of an issue with them quitting jobs and expecting his parents to let them live with them while they find work after bumming around the world for months. 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Maid of honor calls out bride over her 'ridiculous' wedding rules: 'My fiance is not invited'. I can't talk about my 'lifestyle' because she doesn't want to . Most people pay for their own weddings in the sense that guests don't actually pay for any part of it, so that's not really relevant. So a couple may have originally thought they wanted to have a big wedding with lots of guests but then end up going down the route of eloping. The parents decided to help out their daughter by giving her $10K for her dream wedding that she already spent half of while planning her big day celebration. NTA~lotsofcache. literally whenever I would start talking both of them would start scrolling on their phones., Im not even kidding. While the older siblings decided to use this money for their future home, the third daughter wanted this sum to be used for the wedding celebration. 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Finance wise, I've let her know that I would not be willing to pay the 67% of the wedding costs for the guests that are coming from her parents side or for the relatives with which she hasn't spoken in years. Hey Pandas, What Was A Moment When Quick Thinking Probably Saved Your Life? It's her guest list and I get that. Check your inbox, and click on the link to activate your account. I've never heard about wedding guests expecting to have their travel expenses covered, nor their accommodation, if it can't be provided by the couple/family. ._2cHgYGbfV9EZMSThqLt2tx{margin-bottom:16px;border-radius:4px}._3Q7WCNdCi77r0_CKPoDSFY{width:75%;height:24px}._2wgLWvNKnhoJX3DUVT_3F-,._3Q7WCNdCi77r0_CKPoDSFY{background:var(--newCommunityTheme-field);background-size:200%;margin-bottom:16px;border-radius:4px}._2wgLWvNKnhoJX3DUVT_3F-{width:100%;height:46px} The extra guests cost would be 1 month's salary for her. If you've ever planned a wedding, you'll know the struggle of having to decide who gets invited, who gets to be a groomsman or a bridesmaid, who is just there for the ceremony and whatnot. They previously said they would pay for these things. Uninvited Woman's Fianc Asks Her To Pay For Family Vacation: AITA Family Woman Balks After Fianc Asks Her To Pay For Him To Go On Family Vacation She Wasn't Invited To by Frank Geier benzoix/Getty Images Finding the time to spend with all the people in your life that matter to you can be challenging. Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. My father is getting remarried, hes almost 58 years old. Start writing! OP is NTA.". Look at the OP's reply to one of the first comments. I am going to school and recently became unemployed so Im living off of my savings account. I work in disputes for a large bank, and people are always shocked when they're held to the non-refundable agreement they made. cf; pf . do not pay for anything for your father's wedding!!!! You only have so much of it to spend, so you have to make sure to spend it with the people you cherish and who cherish you. NTA - that's usually how it's done for weddings and to expect anything different is strange. His family and I don't have a super strong connection and that is because I don't spend much time around them. Especially when backing off is not an option? Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. DesignerMedium9046 51 10m. "She was shocked to hear me say . NTA.~suzris. What is your take on this situation? The planning and arrangements can take their toll on anyone. Employers don't like that ho~hum attitude, either. That may be true if you go to court over it(im not a lawyer, so idk), but if you try to dispute it through your bank, you're gonna be held to the agreement you made, which likely only says that the deposit is non-refundable. When someone moves across the country, they accept the reality that they'll miss milestones for all sorts of reasons ranging from costs to time. Or allow/support others doing the same. NTA. NTA as long as you arent upset if people who live faraway cant attend. We have sent an email to the address you provided with an activation link. It's a shame, but there it is. He doesnt like that we arent invited but hes not turning down a free vacation either., After she invited him and his boys and made all the plans and purchased tickets she told him shed pay for their accommodations but he had to help pay for everything else., He barely makes enough money to cover his own bills and his part of our shared bills (mortgage & utilities). She asked for advice on Reddit 's " Am I the A****** " forum. I highlighted that I'd prefer we'd invite only family and friends that we're actively communicating and going out with, that I'd rather spend that precious time with people I care most for, rather than being split around tables having to entertain people I rarely even talk to. Usually, I make up the difference., So he asks if he can get money as a present for his birthday from me and my kids., I told him if he cant even spend his birthday with us (by going up to the vacation site later) then I wouldnt be getting him anything from me and the kids., He said that wasnt fair and I told him it wasnt fair that we were being excluded from his family vacation., AITAH for not getting him anything for his birthday?. Saul Tolstych. if she cant afford to come, then she cant come. 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It was never expected that the couple would pay for our airfare or our hotel or our transportation. A mom asked the AITA community on Reddit for their opinion, on whether or not she did the right thing by taking her daughter and leaving a wedding they were attending because her stepbrother pulled off her wig in front of everyone. She was very nice and polite and very good with my granddaughter. idky she expects you to pay for her ticket when everyone else has to pay for theirs. They asked another family member to help plan the shower. After it's AITA for not getting along with my sister in law? These expenses are unplanned and more than I am able to afford. We're both financially in a good place, but for the past 3 years I've been earning twice what she makes. Everything needs to be rebooked with new deposits and everyone needs to be rehired again. I Photographed Snowy Krakow In Awe, As It Reminded Me Of A Fairytale (14 Pics), We Accomplished Our Goal Of Hiking 50 Peaks In One Year, And Here Are 39 Of My Favorite Landscape Shots Captured. Of course, when we go out and have romantic dinners (about once a week) I cover the cost, and we usually give each other gifts every month or so, but those are extras. It will not get better.~HumbleGarb, Run. @keyframes _1tIZttmhLdrIGrB-6VvZcT{0%{opacity:0}to{opacity:1}}._3uK2I0hi3JFTKnMUFHD2Pd,.HQ2VJViRjokXpRbJzPvvc{--infoTextTooltip-overflow-left:0px;font-size:12px;font-weight:500;line-height:16px;padding:3px 9px;position:absolute;border-radius:4px;margin-top:-6px;background:#000;color:#fff;animation:_1tIZttmhLdrIGrB-6VvZcT .5s step-end;z-index:100;white-space:pre-wrap}._3uK2I0hi3JFTKnMUFHD2Pd:after,.HQ2VJViRjokXpRbJzPvvc:after{content:"";position:absolute;top:100%;left:calc(50% - 4px - var(--infoTextTooltip-overflow-left));width:0;height:0;border-top:3px solid #000;border-left:4px solid transparent;border-right:4px solid transparent}._3uK2I0hi3JFTKnMUFHD2Pd{margin-top:6px}._3uK2I0hi3JFTKnMUFHD2Pd:after{border-bottom:3px solid #000;border-top:none;bottom:100%;top:auto} Therefore, she and her fianc requested that each guest gift them $1,500 in cash to pay off their wedding. ._2ik4YxCeEmPotQkDrf9tT5{width:100%}._1DR1r7cWVoK2RVj_pKKyPF,._2ik4YxCeEmPotQkDrf9tT5{display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;-ms-flex-align:center;align-items:center}._1DR1r7cWVoK2RVj_pKKyPF{-ms-flex-pack:center;justify-content:center;max-width:100%}._1CVe5UNoFFPNZQdcj1E7qb{-ms-flex-negative:0;flex-shrink:0;margin-right:4px}._2UOVKq8AASb4UjcU1wrCil{height:28px;width:28px;margin-top:6px}.FB0XngPKpgt3Ui354TbYQ{display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;-ms-flex-align:start;align-items:flex-start;-ms-flex-direction:column;flex-direction:column;margin-left:8px;min-width:0}._3tIyrJzJQoNhuwDSYG5PGy{display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;-ms-flex-align:center;align-items:center;width:100%}.TIveY2GD5UQpMI7hBO69I{font-size:12px;font-weight:500;line-height:16px;color:var(--newRedditTheme-titleText);white-space:nowrap;overflow:hidden;text-overflow:ellipsis}.e9ybGKB-qvCqbOOAHfFpF{display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;-ms-flex-align:center;align-items:center;width:100%;max-width:100%;margin-top:2px}.y3jF8D--GYQUXbjpSOL5.y3jF8D--GYQUXbjpSOL5{font-weight:400;box-sizing:border-box}._28u73JpPTG4y_Vu5Qute7n{margin-left:4px} Their wedding was supposed to be two weeks ago but two days prior he suffered a health setback and which resulted in him going to hospital and the wedding having to be postponed. Please enter your email to complete registration. She's known you're getting married likely for months now. as long as you are both perfectly okay with her not coming, NTA. and our When it comes to weddings, the question of how much of the financial burden should be put on the parents of the bride or groom can be a tricky one. My fiance ( 23M) and I (23 F) are getting married in less than a month. I did not argue with my sister because my best friend wasn't invitedI just wasn't sure how else to title this without it being too wordy. There's the spouse, kids, friends, parents. The Bored Panda iOS app is live! "She is planning her wedding (and let me know a few things she wanted for her special day): Since their future in-laws are so conservative and religious, my husband is not allowed to attend the wedding; I said: OK, it's your day. @keyframes ibDwUVR1CAykturOgqOS5{0%{transform:rotate(0deg)}to{transform:rotate(1turn)}}._3LwT7hgGcSjmJ7ng7drAuq{--sizePx:0;font-size:4px;position:relative;text-indent:-9999em;border-radius:50%;border:4px solid var(--newCommunityTheme-bodyTextAlpha20);border-left-color:var(--newCommunityTheme-body);transform:translateZ(0);animation:ibDwUVR1CAykturOgqOS5 1.1s linear infinite}._3LwT7hgGcSjmJ7ng7drAuq,._3LwT7hgGcSjmJ7ng7drAuq:after{width:var(--sizePx);height:var(--sizePx)}._3LwT7hgGcSjmJ7ng7drAuq:after{border-radius:50%}._3LwT7hgGcSjmJ7ng7drAuq._2qr28EeyPvBWAsPKl-KuWN{margin:0 auto} They can't expect the people back home to cover all those expenses after they chose to move away. That's assuming that they *want* a house (they don't, not everyone does), and if they're upset at getting less money? My sister-in-law, who lives on the other side of the country, is upset that we won't pay for her ticket and is now refusing to come to the wedding. He has a massive family and mine is less than a third of his. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. A woman and her fiance got invited to go on holiday by car, and it turned out they would have to endure a screaming baby and bad odors for the whole trip Image credits: 55555551i2 The original poster on the Reddit subforum embarked on a road trip with her fiance's family and it went quite poorly from the get-go. Its uncommon to go halfway down the road of planning a certain type of wedding and then going in the opposite direction.. Dec. 21, 2020. The list seems to just go on and on. ._2Gt13AX94UlLxkluAMsZqP{background-position:50%;background-repeat:no-repeat;background-size:contain;position:relative;display:inline-block} NTA. My daughter and I were given a 6 oz. Please provide your email address and we will send your password shortly. "Only Smart Brides Save Money": Fianc Loses It After Finding Out His Wife-To-Be Spent $400 Of Her Own Money On A Wedding Dress Ieva Gailit and Ilona Balinait In an ideal world, planning a wedding would be a thrill. Everyone wins! .FIYolDqalszTnjjNfThfT{max-width:256px;white-space:normal;text-align:center} Finding the time to spend with all the people in your life that matter to you can be challenging. ago. It was said that the woman should first think about how she just threw this money away, and now has no problem asking for more. See our ~~*Best Of*~~ "Most Controversial" at /r/AITAFiltered! /*# sourceMappingURL=https://www.redditstatic.com/desktop2x/chunkCSS/IdCard.ea0ac1df4e6491a16d39_.css.map*/._2JU2WQDzn5pAlpxqChbxr7{height:16px;margin-right:8px;width:16px}._3E45je-29yDjfFqFcLCXyH{margin-top:16px}._13YtS_rCnVZG1ns2xaCalg{font-family:Noto Sans,Arial,sans-serif;font-size:14px;font-weight:400;line-height:18px;display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex}._1m5fPZN4q3vKVg9SgU43u2{margin-top:12px}._17A-IdW3j1_fI_pN-8tMV-{display:inline-block;margin-bottom:8px;margin-right:5px}._5MIPBF8A9vXwwXFumpGqY{border-radius:20px;font-size:12px;font-weight:500;letter-spacing:0;line-height:16px;padding:3px 10px;text-transform:none}._5MIPBF8A9vXwwXFumpGqY:focus{outline:unset} You really do love to see it. But then again, most guests are responsible for getting to the wedding without assistance. After you are married, your MIL will treat your kids differently because they arent her biological grandkids., Things like birthdays and Christmas will become nightmares., I am not talking about paying for education or other more extravagant gifts, just the everyday living experiences., I am not saying you expect any of this, it is just what will probably happen. To view it, confirm your age. If you really want her there, then pay, otherwise she can stay at home. CareyHope/Getty Images. Then it's the namesake. "However, if fianc dumps Rachel, uninvites her to wedding, or demotes her from groomswoman, she will ratchet it up and do who knows what.". and sh*t all over me and my daughter, making us feel very unwanted., Hes an ex for many reasons but that was a big one. We also have so little in common. Sounds like someone who doesn't plan ahead. We loved her since the first day we met her. I have a feeling that the parents would do exactly that cos they seem like good decent people. You can read more about it and change your preferences, , a leading wedding planner platform in the UK that provides a wide range of services for engaged couples, to find out some insightful nuances about wedding planning. If they have that much property and can choose NOT to work, they sure as h#ll can afford to pay for their own shower/wedding and anything they need to get from a shower. Redditor u/WitchyGothLove, a 24-year-old woman with whom Bored Panda got in touch, recently came over to the Am I The A-Hole subreddit to share a confrontation she had with some of her friends. There are so many views that I haven't even considered and you are all right in your own way. Help keep the sub engaging! Therefore, whenever we need to pay for something, I pay 67% of it, and she's paying the remaining 33%. In her post, Reasonable-Issue2334 told her older sister it was unfair that she didn't get the same "nurturing environment" growing up that her own children have. 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